The Next Steps

One you have sent out an initial resume’ to churches, you may be contacted by some of those churches. Many times you will get a letter or email thanking you for your information but kindly letting you know that you don’t fit the profile they are looking for in the position. Unfortunately, there will also be churches who simply never contact you at all. Churches who want more information will most likely send you an Application or Questionnaire that they would like you to fill out and return with links to some of your sermons. I filled out documents like this that were as short as 6 questions to those that were as long as a couple dozen pages. One thing I found helpful was to save the first two or three that I filled out as a Word document on my computer. This allowed me to save time by “cutting and pasting” answers for additional documents I was requested to complete, as many of the questions were the same or at least very similar.

For most Search Committees, there will be a lengthy period of time as they sift through all of the resumes and questionnaires they receive. If you do not get “weeded out” through this process, the most likely next step will be a phone conversation with a member of the Search Committee. I always found these calls very intriguing as you can learn a lot about a church by the first question or two that they ask you. I had one church who knew very little about me whose first question to me was, “What translation of the Bible do you preach from?” That told me a lot about this church. Another church’s initial question was, “Do you ever think it’s OK for a Christian to drink alcohol?” That question also showed me a lot about that church. I’m not saying they are not legitimate questions, but I was intrigued that in these cases they were the first questions asked of me.

If this conversation leads to a next step it will most likely be a Phone or SKYPE conversation with the entire Search Committee of the church. I had several of these types of dialogues and always enjoyed them. In most cases, after this conversation it will become fairly clear to you, that Search Committee, or perhaps both of you, as to whether the dialogue should continue or if it will come to an end. Don’t get discouraged if this leads to a closed door. One of the best things that can happen through your search process is to see God open and close doors. Both are important and both are answers to prayer. That’s what I will talk about in my next posting.

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Where to Find a New Ministry

In my last couple of postings I talked about what I call "spreading the net wide" when it comes to looking for a new ministry. But where do you find out information on what churches out there are looking for pastors. This is where the Internet becomes a great tool. There are many websites out there that list churches looking for pastors with contact information for Search Committees of those churches. In most cases there are links to these church websites so that you can get an even better feel for their ministry. This is how I ended up first coming in contact with the Gaylord Evangelical Free Church in Gaylord, Michigan where I am now the new pastor (yesterday was my first Sunday!).

On most of these websites you can also list your information about you as a pastor looking for a new ministry. Some of the websites that I found most helpful were the following:

www.churchstaffing.com

www.pastorfinder.com

www.pastorsearch.net

www.churchjobs.net

www.ministrysearch.com

www.ministrylist.com

I also discovered that many larger churches today are hiring outside agencies to do their initial search for them and then bring them a list of what might be called "semi-finalists." I was in communication with one such group in regards to two different churches during my search. This agency was The Vanderbloemen Search Agency and they are a top-notch, out-standing group. Though I did not end up at either of these churches I very much enjoyed and was encouraged by my conversations with William, Ben and Jay at Vanderbloemen. There website is below:

www.vanderbloemensearch.com

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Casting The Net Wide

In my last posting I talked about casting the net wide when it comes to looking for a new ministry position. Instead of limiting my options as to where God might be leading me, when I found myself having to look for a new ministry position, I tried to spread the net as wide as possible. For example:

Geography: The temptation was to only look for churches in the Midwest, which is where my wife and I are the most comfortable living, or within a half day’s drive of Liberty University in Lynchburg, Virginia, where both of my kids were in college. Instead, I made the decision that I would not refuse to send a resume' to a church based simply on where they were located. In fact, in order to keep my sanity, I played a little game and made it a goal to send out a resume' to a church in all 50 states (I ended up with over 40).

Denomination: I had only pastored in one fellowship of churches my entire 24 years in ministry before having to look for a new position. It would have been natural to say that I would only look for a new position in that same fellowship of churches. Instead, I decided that I would not refuse to send out a resume' to a church based solely on their denominational affiliation. Instead, if I agreed with that church’s statement of faith, I decided I would send out a resume' to them.

Size: The church I had previously pastored had grown significantly and was considered a “larger” church. It would have been easy for me to say I would only send resumes out to churches that are the same size as the church I had just left. Instead, I made the decision that if a church was at least 250 in average attendance I would send them a resume' (I had to pick some parameter or else I would have sent out hundreds upon hundreds of resumes).

Worship Style: I am used to more of a contemporary and creative style of worship so it would have been easy to say that I would only send a resume' to churches with a contemporary music style. However, I believe that God can work in many different styles of churches so I made the decision not to refuse sending a resume' to a church based on a certain style of worship.

So for me, spreading the net wide meant that I would send a resume' to any church that was looking for a Senior Pastor that was at least 250 in average Sunday attendance and had a doctrinal statement I agreed with in spite of the denominational affiliation, geographical location, or worship style. I would then let God be the one to sort out the churches that got caught in my net.
But how did I find out about the churches that were looking for a pastor. I’ll talk about that in my next blog posting.

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When It's time to LOOK

As we talked about in my last posting, Lord willing, whatever challenges you are facing in your ministry will ultimately be able to be worked out and you will continue to serve the Lord in the ministry where you are at currently. But those times do happen when the Lord makes it clear that a parting of the ways is necessary. In my last posting we talked about how to “LEAVE” when those times happen and I encouraged you to leave with grace. Beginning today I want to share a few blog postings about what I learned in regards to how to “LOOK” for a new ministry.

When I resigned from my ministry back in September of 2010, I was faced with a situation I had never faced before in 24 years of pastoral ministry. For the very first time I had to look for a new ministry position. I had made ministry changes twice before, but each time these doors opened up for me while I was currently in a ministry that was going very well. So when it came time to look for a new ministry on my own I was starting at square one, not having much of a clue where to begin. So where do you start when you are faced with the task of looking for a new ministry? Here are two preliminary boundaries I put in place as I began the process:

First, I would be patient. I don’t know about you but patience is difficult for me. Yet, I wanted to be sure that the next ministry assignment I took was the one where God wanted me. I didn’t want to take the first church that showed an interest in me nor did I want to settle for God’s permissive will. I wanted to be right smack dab in the middle of His perfect will for me and that would take patience.

Second, I would spread my net wide. I have known some guys who have found themselves suddenly looking for a new ministry and who put the parameters that they were looking for in a real small box (It had to be a church in a certain geographical location; It had to be a church of a certain size; It had to be a church of a certain denomination; It had to be a church with a certain worship style, etc). I decided to open up the boundaries as wide as I could be comfortable with and allow God to weed out the churches that got caught in the net. I will talk more about this in my next posting.

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When It's Time To LEAVE

Tough and hurtful times come into every pastor’s ministry. Over the past 6 months that I have been writing posts here at “Hope For Hurting Pastors,” I have been sharing principles that I have learned during tough and hurtful times I have experienced as a pastor. It is always our intent in ministry to be able to work through these difficulties and continue to serve the Lord in our place of service. But those times do come when it becomes obvious that a parting of the ways is best.

This is difficult in so many ways, and our inclination is to go out with “guns blazing” by being sure that our side of the story is communicated to all and understood by all. We often feel a need to counteract every accusation made against us so people know we are innocent. But I would like to suggest and encourage you to prayerfully consider that the best way to leave a ministry when difficulties cannot be resolved is to leave with grace. To me, this means that you leave quietly rather than sharing your side of the story with anyone and everyone who will listen. I have found that the benefits to a graceful exit include:

-We avoid giving the church we are leaving a bad name or a black eye. After all, that church will continue to be a light to their community and will continue to preach Jesus.

-We avoid putting people in the church we are leaving in a position where they have to choose between us and the leadership of the church. Choosing sides is rarely beneficial for anyone.

-We speed up the healing process in our own lives and allow us to work though the need we have to forgive instead of allowing bitterness to take root in our lives.

So if the time comes (and I hope it doesn’t) that the Lord makes it clear that the challenges you are facing in your ministry is to end in a parting of the ways, choose to leave graciously. Don’t go out with “guns blazing.” Keep those guns (your tongue and your words) holstered. I believe that God will bless you for it, and in the end, He will be the one to vindicate you. Go with the words of Isaiah, “In quietness and trust is my strength” (Isaiah 30:15).

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RESTRUCTURE - Part 3

This is my final posting on the topic of JOY from the book of Philippians. In Philippians 4:6-7 we have seen our need to REJOICE; our need to RESPOND; and our need to RESTRUCTURE if we are going to live joyful lives during those times when being in ministry really hurts. We saw that this restructuring involves two elements. We already saw our need to turn our anxiety into PRAYER. Finally, we see our need to turn our anxiety into PEACE.

Paul tells us that when we truly turn our WORRY list into our PRAYER list, as we saw in the last couple of postings, that the result will be PEACE. This peace comes from God and totally transcends our mental ability to grasp it or to understand it.

And what does this peace from God do? The passage says that it "GUARDS" our "HEARTS" and our "MINDS!" The word "guard" here is a military word describing a garrison of soldiers on duty (see 2 Corinthians 11:32). The duty of these soldiers were to guard something at all costs.

What does the peace of God guard in our lives when we go through hurtful and even harmful times in our ministry? It guards our "HEARTS" and it guards our "MINDS!" Our "HEART" speaks of our feelings. Our "MIND" speaks of our thinking. This is important because wrong thinking and wrong feelings will cause great damage in our lives.

These are the two areas that I believe the evil one attacks when we go through hardships in our ministries, especially when those hardships are exhibited through personal attacks. Satan attacks our feelings and he attacks our thinking. And when we respond and make decisions based on wrong thinking and/or wrong feelings, we will end up shipwrecked in ministry.

But when we restructure our lives in such a way that we turn our WORRY list into our PRAYER list, the peace of God guards how we think and how we feel! Then, and only then, can we experience a life of joy even during the most difficult times of our lives and ministries!

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RESTRUCTURE - Part 2

Philippians 4:4 tells us to REJOICE! Philippians 4:5 tells us to RESPOND! Philippians 4:6-7 tells us to RESTRUCTURE. This is how we can live joyful lives when the circumstances of our ministries are anything but happy. This restruturing has two elements. We saw in my last posting that it involves turning our anxiety into prayer. We are to WORRY about NOTHING but instead to PRAY about EVERYTHING. We are to turn our WORRY list into our PRAYER list. And there are three specific ways that we learn how to do exactly this.

First, we must pray with PERSEVERANCE! Paul said that instead inf worrying, "in everything" we are to pray. Paul echoed the same words to the church at Thessalonica when he wrote, "Pray withotu ceasing" (1 Thessalonians 5:17). No matter how ugly things continue to become for you in your life or in your ministry, keep on praying!

Second, we must pray with PARTICULRS! In the passage we are looking at, Paul used the word "prayer" and he uses the word "supplication." "Prayer" is a general term while "supplciation" speaks of praying in personal detail. Don't just pray. Pray specifically. What specifically are you asking God to do?

Third, we must pray with PRAISE! Paul said that not only are we to pray "in everything" but we are also to do so "with thanksgiving." Paul echoed this to the Thessalonican church as well when he wrote to them, "In everything give thanks for this is the will of God for you in Christ Jesus" (1 Thessalonians 5:18). And it is the will of God for you too - even in the midst of the hurt you are experiencing in your ministry.

We are to turn our anxiety into PRAYER. But this restructuring that leads to joyful lives even when life hurts also includes turning our anxiety into PEACE! I will talk about this in my next posting.

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RESTRUCTURE - Part 1

How do we live joyful lives when we go through extremely difficult times in our lives and in our ministries? We saw from Philippians 4:4 the need to REJOICE! We saw from Philippians 4:5 the need to RESPOND! Today we see the third need. From Philippians 4:6-7 we learn of our need to RESTRUCTURE! This restructuring has two aspects.

First, we must turn our anxiety into PRAYER! Philippians 4:6 has a negative command followed by a positive command. Negatively, we are to "be anxious for nothing!" The word "anxious" means to be distracted or to feel pulled in two different directions.

This negative command is then followed by a positive command. Instead of being anxious about the issues we are facing in our lives and in our ministries, we are to turn our worry list into our prayer list. Let me paraphrase it this way:

"WORRY about NOTHING! PRAY about EVERYTHING!"

STOP worrying! START praying! Jesus made it clear that worrying can accomplish nothing (see Matthew 6:27). Imagine what could happen if you took all the time and energy you are spending worrying about your challenges and instead used that time and energy to pray about those challenges. After all, nothing of eternal importance happens apart from prayer.

This restructuring of turning our anxiety into prayer involves three elements. I will share these three elements in my next posting.

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RESPOND

In my last posting we looked at one of three needs that we have, as seen in Philippians 4:4-7, if we are going to live joyful lives when we go through tough and hurtful times in our lives and in our ministries. The first need was to REJOICE! Today we see the second need which is to RESPOND! Philippians 4:5 says this:

"Let your gentle spirit be known to all men. The Lord is near!"

How are we to live? We are to live lives exhibiting a "gentle spirit" even when the heat and hurt that can come with being in ministry increases. What does it mean to be "gentle"? Synonyms for this word include, "considerateness; graciousness; sweet reasonableness; and having a friendly disposition."

Antonyms for this word include such descriptions as, "stubbornness; thoughtlessness and harshness." So even when you are going through a hurtful and difficult time in ministry, respond with a gentle spirit. Don't respond with stubbornness, thoughtlessness or harshness. Instead, respond with considerateness; graciousness; sweet reasonableness; and with a friendly disposition.

And who are you to respond this way to? The verse says "all men"! Does this include even those who are mistreating you or causing you pain? Absolutely. "All" means "all" and that's "all" that "all" means.

Why should we respond to all men this way? The verse says to do so because "the Lord is near!" The term means "at hand." I believe this is speaking of the nearness of Christ's return. We should respond with a gentle spirit to all men because Jesus could come at any time. And responding in this way for this reason is a way to live a joyful life even when life and ministry hurts!

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REJOICE

Philippians 4:4-7 has much to teach us about living a life of joy, even when we go through tough times in our lives and in our ministries. From these verses we learn three needs we have if we are going to live a life of joy even when our circumstances are anything but joyful.

First, we must REJOICE! Philippians 4:4 says to "Rejoice in the Lord always!" What are we to do? We are to "rejoice!" This means to live in a continual state of celebration and contentment. The word literally means "to be glad!" This is the word used to describe the celebration of the father when his prodigal son returned home in Luke 15:32.

How are we to rejoice? We are to rejoice "in the Lord!" We have already learned that joy has nothing to do with our circumstances but everything to do with our position in Christ.

When are we to rejoice in the Lord? We are to rejoice in the Lord "always!" No matter what adversity comes into my life or ministry I can still choose to celebrate and to be content in who I am in Jesus Christ!

Why should we rejoice in the Lord always? It's importance is seen in the continual reminder that Paul gives when he adds the words, "Again I will say rejoice!" Paul is saying that I will continually remind you to keep on rejoicing!

And that is my goal in this blog posting today. If you are a hurting pastor, pastor's wife or ministry leader that is going through a very hurtful time in your life and ministry, let me remind you of this Biblical mandate:

"Rejoice in the Lord always! Again I will say rejoice!"

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The Attributes of Joy - Part 2

We saw in my last posting the first attribute of JOY which is that JOY has nothing to do with CIRCUMSTANCES but everything to do with CHRIST. Today we see the second attribute of JOY which is this:

JOY is not a matter of my ACTIONS but rather of my ATTITUDE!

Warren Weirsbe put it this way, "The secret of Christian JOY is found in the way the believer thinks...his attitude!"

Motivational speaker Zig Ziglar said it like this, "Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you respond to it!"

The bottom line is this - it is CHRIST then and it is CHRIST now that brings us JOY. 1 Peter 1:8 teaches this with these words:

"Though you have not seen Him, you love Him, and though you do not see Him now, you GREATLY REJOICE with JOY INEXPRESSIBLE and FULL OF GLORY."

If you are facing a hurtful and difficult hurdle in ministry - if you are a hurting pastor, hurting pastor's wife, or hurting ministry leader, this verse is one you should memorize today!

The Attributes of Joy - Part 1

There are two attributes of JOY that we must keep in mind, especially when we go through difficult periods in ministry. The first is perhaps the most important and it is this:

JOY has nothing to do with CIRCUMSTANCES but everything to do with CHRIST!

Christ was called a "Man of Sorrow" (read Isaiah 53 and Luke 18:31-33) yet He still came to make our JOY full (read John 15:11) and He Himself found JOY even in going to the cross (read Hebrews 12:2).

Back in the days of kings and crusades, kings of kingdoms were often out in battle. When the king was in the palace a certain flag was flown at the castle to give assurance to the people that the king was on the throne and to show that the kingdom was at peace.

In the same regards, it is JOY which is the flag that is flown from the castle of one's heart when King Jesus is in residence there. So hoist up the flag of JOY today in your life. No matter what ministry challenge you are facing, your JOY is based on CHRIST, not on your CIRCUMSTANCES.

The Litmus Test of Joy - a SONG on Your Lips!

Yesterday we saw that a SENSE OF HUMOR was a litmus test of joy, even during the trials of life and ministry. Today let me share one other litmus test that shows joy in someone's life. It is a SONG ON YOUR LIPS - Psalms 126:2, in which we saw the need for laughter in my last posting, says, "Our mouth was filled with laughter and our tongue with joyful singing."

Anna Russell wrote it beautifully in the words to this old hymn: "There is never a day so dreary, there is never a night so long, but the soul that is trusting in Jesus will somewhere find a song. Wonderful, wonderful Jesus! In the heart He implanteth a song; a song of deliverance; of courage; of strength; in the heart He implanteth a song."

Remember Paul and Silas in prison in Acts 16:22-25. After being beaten they were thrown into stocks. Stocks was a 6 to 8 foot log in which one ankle was attached to one end of the log and then your legs were spread farther than designed while your other ankle was attached to the other end of the log. And what were Paul and Silas doing in that condition at midnight? They were singing praises to God. I guarantee they were singing "soprano" but they were singing because even in their misery they still had joy. Do you? No matter how bad you are hurting right now, go ahead - break out in a song and let it vibrate off the rafters!

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